How often it happens to meet the perfect match for life?
Sure, nobody is perfect, but the best match in all cases of relationships - it is not really often...
To understand if the person is "the best", you might check him/her with a lot of questions, or making strange situations to see the reaction.... Or you try the most straight way - start living together.
The best and in the same time the worst thing is to check it while living in the same flat, sharing all free time together, and so on...
The best, cause you have an opportunity to see your partner in different moments, situations, decisions... and if you still think that this is the perfect one, congrats!
The worst, cause if you realized that it is finally NOT the best match, it is kind of too late to talk about - you already live together, and can't just say "bye". Sure, you don't want to hurt him/her, and you start to lie, to cheat, to live "hidden" life...
Is it possible to improve situation, or if it is "NO" option, it is better to "divorce"???
I really think it is possible by reviving love - the only feeling that can bond people.
How?
By finding out what was so pretty in your actions when you just started your relationships, and try to repeat it, or change yourself "back in time". If you care, "listen" to a heart of your partner, do something to make him/her love you more.... or let it be, and be ready to say goodbye.
Monday, September 26, 2011
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Two different worlds
Women and Men are from different "planets" - that is true!
Talking about the same thing with the same words we see absolutely different message behind it...
Sometimes it can really hurt one person or even both in relationship.
Men sincerely can't understand how important for women is to talk about feeling, fears, problems. Women can't feel happy if her "love" is not willing to listen her. Yes, sometimes women talk too much, and for men it sounds annoying... But if only men could spend some minutes per day just to ask "honey, how was your day?", "How do you feel?", etc., it would be so much more easier to be happy, smiley, faster at making "house" work with pleasure.... :)))
The huge difference between men and women is that men never talk about their problems or worries. They prefer to "go deeply inside themselves". When they "hide" so deep, it is better to leave them to think it over, and not to talk with them. Just let them be.
With women it is a big problem if they "go inside themselves" - for this they have only two reasons - or they are afraid to say something that can hurt another person, or they are offended...
Without understanding this difference women usually think that men's silence means the same as women's silence, and vice versa. Men think "oh, she is silence now, so it is better to let her stay alone, to solve this problems by herself" - but originally, women "scream out" with this something like "please, do something, talk with me, help me, support me, listen to me, let me feel loved and needed, show me how much you care..." - but sadly, mostly couples break because they "DON'T HEAR EACH OTHER".
As long I am together with my bf, as more I understand that it is a hard work to understand him, to react "normally" when he does something "strange" for me. But sometimes I cry because he can't understand me, and still I am not able to explain everything in "men's language"....
We are so different, but if we want to live whole life together in harmony, we have to learn the language of each other!!!
Talking about the same thing with the same words we see absolutely different message behind it...
Sometimes it can really hurt one person or even both in relationship.
Men sincerely can't understand how important for women is to talk about feeling, fears, problems. Women can't feel happy if her "love" is not willing to listen her. Yes, sometimes women talk too much, and for men it sounds annoying... But if only men could spend some minutes per day just to ask "honey, how was your day?", "How do you feel?", etc., it would be so much more easier to be happy, smiley, faster at making "house" work with pleasure.... :)))
The huge difference between men and women is that men never talk about their problems or worries. They prefer to "go deeply inside themselves". When they "hide" so deep, it is better to leave them to think it over, and not to talk with them. Just let them be.
With women it is a big problem if they "go inside themselves" - for this they have only two reasons - or they are afraid to say something that can hurt another person, or they are offended...
Without understanding this difference women usually think that men's silence means the same as women's silence, and vice versa. Men think "oh, she is silence now, so it is better to let her stay alone, to solve this problems by herself" - but originally, women "scream out" with this something like "please, do something, talk with me, help me, support me, listen to me, let me feel loved and needed, show me how much you care..." - but sadly, mostly couples break because they "DON'T HEAR EACH OTHER".
As long I am together with my bf, as more I understand that it is a hard work to understand him, to react "normally" when he does something "strange" for me. But sometimes I cry because he can't understand me, and still I am not able to explain everything in "men's language"....
We are so different, but if we want to live whole life together in harmony, we have to learn the language of each other!!!
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Yes, I can!
Already more then half a year I live in Germany, but still my German skills are low. I know that I need it, but I have a lot of excuses why I have no time and wish for it right now... Sure, I will learn it - slowly, but I will ! Who knows how much time will be spent on it...
New semester is on (to be precise, two semesters and a half)! I am going to study in two semesters at once, plus some subjects from other semesters, plus German language course! I think that I can do it all, and with good results (I promised myself), but there is one more point I faced for the first time in my life - I started to live with a man...
He is great! Last year, autumn, we started as just friends. Then, studying in the same uni and living in the same city we became a couple. Of course it is just in "two" words, but still... I am sure that we have sincere feelings, we love each other! I don't know who feels more, but I can do everything for him...
Once you met the real love, the greatest person, the best match - you have to "hold" him/her near, not to lose! Because this happens just once a life!!! I seriously mean real LOVE! Yes, only with him I understood what is REAL love, responsibility of feelings, tolerance...
Sure, nobody is perfect... But when two people decided to be together, they go on a lot of concessions - not to hurt each other's feelings,personality, etc. It is important to be careful with another person... Cause in the beginning of any relationship you don't know how this person can react on this or that. It is highly important to "listen" to each other - to notice any change in a mood, to learn aspirations, wishes, and tastes of each other.
Some people just live together, pretending that they know each other and everything is fine... but in the result of this "knowing" they get constant argues, scandals, incomprehensions...break.
Why I am talking about this topic for so long now? I just want to splash out all my emotions and fears about my future!!!!!!!!! Studying a lot (as I expect) + German + "housewife" obligations + huge work to understand who this guy really is... Am I able to deal with this all ??? Can I stay myself after time, or I will totally dissolve in him???
New semester is on (to be precise, two semesters and a half)! I am going to study in two semesters at once, plus some subjects from other semesters, plus German language course! I think that I can do it all, and with good results (I promised myself), but there is one more point I faced for the first time in my life - I started to live with a man...
He is great! Last year, autumn, we started as just friends. Then, studying in the same uni and living in the same city we became a couple. Of course it is just in "two" words, but still... I am sure that we have sincere feelings, we love each other! I don't know who feels more, but I can do everything for him...
Once you met the real love, the greatest person, the best match - you have to "hold" him/her near, not to lose! Because this happens just once a life!!! I seriously mean real LOVE! Yes, only with him I understood what is REAL love, responsibility of feelings, tolerance...
Sure, nobody is perfect... But when two people decided to be together, they go on a lot of concessions - not to hurt each other's feelings,personality, etc. It is important to be careful with another person... Cause in the beginning of any relationship you don't know how this person can react on this or that. It is highly important to "listen" to each other - to notice any change in a mood, to learn aspirations, wishes, and tastes of each other.
Some people just live together, pretending that they know each other and everything is fine... but in the result of this "knowing" they get constant argues, scandals, incomprehensions...break.
Why I am talking about this topic for so long now? I just want to splash out all my emotions and fears about my future!!!!!!!!! Studying a lot (as I expect) + German + "housewife" obligations + huge work to understand who this guy really is... Am I able to deal with this all ??? Can I stay myself after time, or I will totally dissolve in him???
Monday, August 22, 2011
Worries...
Girls and boys have different brain !!!
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You think that everybody is the same?
Ok, look, you can be "away" for some hours being somewhere in a very dangerous place, and your girl is sitting at home and trying to reach you via phone with no reply - do you think this girl can stay calm? No, of course NO ! Every girl having mother instinct and having a boy, starts to behave like "mom", always carrying as much as possible!
Mostly, for you, boys it is no stress if your girl is in the same situation, cause you are sure that she will recall back soon. But try to get on "girls place", and understand the feelings !
But you cant even imagine how big this stress is, when you have no information about how the most important person on the Earth feels right at the moment!
Guys, PLEASE, always think THE WAY girls think (at least sometimes) - only then you will understand them, and avoid the stressful situations and then you will get the harmony in your relationships!
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You think that everybody is the same?
Ok, look, you can be "away" for some hours being somewhere in a very dangerous place, and your girl is sitting at home and trying to reach you via phone with no reply - do you think this girl can stay calm? No, of course NO ! Every girl having mother instinct and having a boy, starts to behave like "mom", always carrying as much as possible!
Mostly, for you, boys it is no stress if your girl is in the same situation, cause you are sure that she will recall back soon. But try to get on "girls place", and understand the feelings !
But you cant even imagine how big this stress is, when you have no information about how the most important person on the Earth feels right at the moment!
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Guys, PLEASE, always think THE WAY girls think (at least sometimes) - only then you will understand them, and avoid the stressful situations and then you will get the harmony in your relationships!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Gala - Freed From Desire (lyrics)
My love has got no money He's got his strong beliefs
My love has got no power He's got his strong beliefs
My love has got no fame He's got his strong beliefs
My love has got no money He's got his strong beliefs
Want more and more
People just want more and more
Freedom and love
What he's looking for
Want more and more
People just want more and more
Freedom and love
What he's looking for
Freed from desire Mind and senses purified
Freed from desire Mind and senses purified
Freed from desire Mind and senses purified
Freed from desire
Nanana...
Friday, March 25, 2011
life
What is the price of one friendship?
We meet thousand people, we make hundred relationships, we smile, we cry, we find, we lose.... we live our life just to meet one person to be with (friends/more, doesn't matter, just to be). One? yes... real friend, who is sincerely interested in your life. Not to laugh about your faults, but to take care of you when you fall.
Only this person can walk with you on the road of life obstacles to support you! Not whining!!! Of course, this person is near not only in bad moments! To find out who is real friend you just need to be happy, and check if he is happy for you too... Sometimes it's easier to be friends in tough time, but to be truly happy for your win is really hard!
What can you give for a moment of happiness?
We can go through all difficulties to get instant of it. Is this expensive for you?
We meet thousand people, we make hundred relationships, we smile, we cry, we find, we lose.... we live our life just to meet one person to be with (friends/more, doesn't matter, just to be). One? yes... real friend, who is sincerely interested in your life. Not to laugh about your faults, but to take care of you when you fall.
Only this person can walk with you on the road of life obstacles to support you! Not whining!!! Of course, this person is near not only in bad moments! To find out who is real friend you just need to be happy, and check if he is happy for you too... Sometimes it's easier to be friends in tough time, but to be truly happy for your win is really hard!
What can you give for a moment of happiness?
We can go through all difficulties to get instant of it. Is this expensive for you?
Being depressed is life norm for me now. I stumbled too much in this life. Too naive for this century. But human nature is more cruel than I usually expect...
Yes, here we go again - Friends.
"Time goes by, but friends stay." - it works, but not always.
I paid a lot in this life to realize the value of real friendship.
Thank You, God, for giving me all I had, to go through everything, to survive, to become more experienced, to understand, to learn, to feel....
Yes! To feel means a lot for me!
I love to feel pain, cause after you can compare it to happiness, and then to be much more happier. More and more...
I love to be happy, cause it's not so often... so, I must catch every happy moment and appreciate it, making a new "idol", to pray on... Yes, to pray on happy moment. To beg this moment to stay for longer...
Have you ever been "unemotional"? You know, it's when you see something beautiful, but you don't want to admire... Or to stay calm when see somebody crying...
Sometimes I am too emotional, but at least I SEE THE BEAUTY OF THE WORLD, while you discuss the latest rumours about others.
I don't care if you think I'm insignificant.
WE ALL have own universe inside, but we never wish for exploring ourself and others.... But there are so many interesting and amazing... Just dive into yourself, find something that you will love yourself for... Try to understand WHO YOU ARE, and then, look into your friends.
You think it's enough to look in the eyes to understand the person you talk with?
Noup... Dig deeper.
Sometimes people blind themselves, so even they don't know who they are...
Sunday, March 6, 2011
P!NK - LOVE SONG
I've never written a love song
That didn't end in tears
Maybe you'll rewrite my love song
If you can replace my fears
I need your patience and guidance
And all your lovin' and more
When thunder rolls through my life
Will you be able to weather the storm?
There's so much I would give ya, baby
If I'd only le myself
There's this well of emotions
I feel I must protect
But what's the point of this armour
If it keeps the love away, too?
I'd rather bleed with cuts of love
Than live without any scars
Baby, can I trust this?
Or do all things end?
I need to hear that you'd die for me
Again and again and again
So tell me when you look in my eyes
Can you share all the pain and happy times
'Cause I will love you for the rest of my life
This is my very first love song
That didn't end in tears
I think you re-wrote my love song
For the rest of my years
I will love you for the rest of my Life
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